The leaves have officially begun to fall and the hot cider is bountiful, but would it really be fall without cuffing season?
For those who don’t know what I am talking about, cuffing season is the time of year when everyone desperately desires to be in a relationship.
It is weird to think that a change in the weather makes everyone want a significant other suddenly, but it does. If you think about it, it makes sense everyone would want someone for the holidays and all those cold winter nights.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m pining for a relationship just like everybody else, but I don’t want it to be forced.
During this time of year, it seems like if you are not in a relationship then there obviously is something wrong with you. But how is that fair?
We like to believe we live in a world where we no longer care about what people think about us, but that is the farthest thing from the truth.
“The real pressure comes from my friends and everybody else’s expectations,” senior psychology and Spanish double major Megan Saunders said.
We seem to need everyone’s approval even when it comes to the most intimate part of our lives. We allow others who don’t even know who we are to decide what is best for us.
The sad part is that I find myself doing this. I often catch myself openly offering opinions about the love lives of people I barely know. I tell my friends they could do better or that he seems like an “f-boy.” They’ll say,“ He makes me happy,” and I normally roll my eyes and then wait to pick up the pieces. In all reality, I am another one of the jealous individuals who want what I don’t have – a steady relationship.
This jealousy is made worse when I open my phone. It seems as if every post I see is a picture of two people madly in love. Sure I want my relationships to come naturally, but for God’s sake why do I have to be reminded of something that I envy every time I open my phone.
Trust me, I am not the only one that feels this way.
“Every time I open my phone I get angry and jealous that everyone around me has something that I want. However, I don’t think that anyone specifically put pressure on me. I think most of the pressure comes from myself,” sophomore television arts major Kelly Rogers said.
Rogers has a point. It would be nice if I had someone to share experiences with, but let’s be honest, I have a good 80 years left to find my person. So for this cuffing season, I will be grabbing my heated blanket and a cup of hot cocoa to keep myself warm.
