Urban Dictionary refers to the friend zone as “a state of being where a male inadvertently becomes a “platonic friend” of an attractive female who he was trying to initiate a romantic relationship.”
However, I prefer the very last definition on the popular website stating, “a mythical place where misogynists go to when a woman doesn’t want their penis.”
The friend zone was invented by a male who couldn’t handle rejection and wanted a scapegoat for his failed attempt to successfully charm a female. I am certain that a male devised this term because I have not once heard a girl complain of being in the friend zone.
It’s time to finally set things straight. Women are not required to be attracted to you. Perhaps you aren’t our type, but that does not mean you did anything wrong, should feel emasculated or are deemed to the level of friendship for all of eternity.
I, for one, am tired of hearing nice guys complain about always finishing last and being stuck in the friend zone like it’s the seventh circle of hell. It’s time to relinquish the idea of being friend-zoned and be grateful to have a friendship in the first place.
Being kind to others is a basic expectation in human interactions and does not qualify you to embark on a romantic rendezvous with your crush.
I agree with blogger Matt Eastwood, who prefers the term “unrequited love” because it does not imply that the woman who does not return the affection is at fault. Rather, it assigns the source of the conflict with the person who is unable to accept only friendship.
It’s time to own up to the real problem, gentlemen – your victim mentality and inability to handle the frustration of rejection.
