Dear Jossie,
How do you low-key ask a guy out?
Sincerely,
Curious
Dear Curious,
Hello friend! You need help asking out a guy? Well, I am your gal. Asking someone out is never as easy as it seems.
When I got this question, I was intrigued by the term ‘low-key.’ In a previous article, I gave advice about shooting your shot, but this is more specific and requires a different approach.
Instead of strutting your stuff and making a bold first move–which there is absolutely nothing wrong with–you are seeking a casual approach. Perhaps you could even say you are trying to finesse a date.
Operating under the assumption that you already know this person in some fashion (ex: classmate, friend, co-worker, etc.), it is easy to use this pre-established relationship.
The key is to establish one-on-one time.
If they are a classmate, you could ask them for help on an assignment, or better yet, ask them to explain a concept or idea from class for you–even if you understand everything. Oct. 3 is coming up, so there’s no better time to pull a Cady Heron. If they are the one asking you for help, then offer to meet up with them on the quad to go over notes.
After you have gotten comfortable spending time outside of class, then you can start to transition your relationship into doing other things. A smooth transition could be facilitated by grabbing food before or after class.
This approach can be used with friends and co-workers as well. Figure out a way to hang out one-on-one. Ask your friend to go for a walk down Moss Avenue to see the fall foliage. Tell your co-worker about some food they absolutely must try and then offer to go with them.
Since you’re asking them out casually, it may not even register at first that you are asking them out, so be careful not to jump to conclusions.
I wish you the best of luck!
Best,
Jossie Ward
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